
Dark red spires flowering on a tough little aloe in the garden: there are flaming spires of aloes alongside the roads and on hillsides in the veld. I have been moving harmless whipscorpions and orb spiders to new tree homes, watched by overly interested insect-eating sunbirds and flycatchers. The simplest way to move spiders or other insects around is in clumps of epiphytic orchids or tillandsia, a temporary branched refuge while the arachnids settle in. Yesterday I planted some agapanthus to shore up the crumbling banks near a stream running through the kloof — those tenacious roots slow erosion all over southern Africa, along with the protection offered by clumps of clivia in forested areas.
Gardening is a way of grounding — to work with my hands in chilly damp earth, tugging, lifting, settling the plants. A knot of roots in the good earth. I myself put down roots with each plant I settle. Squatting, the ache in my legs, the winter sun on my shoulders. Aware of dragonflies and carpenter bees like a murmuring humming dance in my vicinity, the darting silver movement of lizards in the new green grassiness after rain. Lustrous pearly spiders in the hollow white sheaths of the arum lilies.
I go on gardening, grounding, listening, breathing in the wind and dirt and scent of wild water until after dark. Then I come back to where there are young kestrels in a badly lopped camphor tree and look upwards, scanning the dark skies for a fragment of moon. The moon has dispersed into flickers of starlight — no, that is just a metaphor that comes into my mind, factless and footloose. Gardening, like grounding, anchors me in reality and the accuracy of naming. What is visible and what is going on just out of sight. Nematodes thickening the young carrots in the raised beds, a friend with a tumour growing in her brain, the cellular wisdom so often inaccessible to us, a bodily knowing that may be imperfect or reliant on dimming eyesight. I am growing older and this is both a comfort and loss, the gleaning of wisdom, the ebbing of energies.
A youngster killed in a car accident this past weekend, speeding on a lonely country road. His sister has not eaten or changed her clothes since hearing the news of his death. She sits on the edge of her bed, smelling of old sweat and acrid disbelief. Her parents ask me to make barley soup, chicken soup, tomato soup, a soup that might tempt her appetite and I take some homemade soup along to the grieving family — but I know she won’t touch it. I wouldn’t. My presence is not required, the soup goes untasted. So much depends on knowing when I cannot help, when my help is not called for. Sometimes we, the outsiders and sojourners, are called to fast and sit shiva, to accompany the dead in transition across worlds, to keep vigil with the living who are bereft. But this time, my name is not called. On a walk I pass the place where the car went off the untarred road in darkness and I pause, but there is only the clean grassy wind and silence. No work for me there, either. But I stay receptive and that is all any of us can do. At some point there may be an opening for a small practical kindness, a gesture of warmth. What I would wish done for myself.
Met with some concerned people from an informal settlement in the river valley to look at the problem of overflowing graveyards with graves that have subsided after flooding — the graves are now too close to the river, but there is nowhere else designated for burial. Soaring death rates because of Aids and multi-drug-resistant TB. Coffins of plywood and cardboard, a rising water table, the risk of pollution, contagion in the summer heat a few months from now. We stand together, helpless and concerned, sharing the uncertainty and distress. We need more land for burial, since the plague of dying will not stop any time soon.
Each day my practice is about the simple, unimportant but crucial stuff, what keeps any of us human, animal, vegetable, women together, people in community, friends and neighbours. To respond and stay responsive, to listen out for what is needed. There are no easy answers but hope continues like a steady flame, the will to resist and keep working for needed change, for rootedness and growth and the new moon swelling like a white cup in the night skies.